NeuroAffective Relational Model for Healing Attachment (NARM)

Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Psychotherapy

Somatic Touch

Spiritual Healing


"Trauma is the invisible force that shapes our lives. It shapes the way we live, the way we love, and the way we make sense of the world. It is the root of our deepest wounds." -by Dr. Gabor Mate


 A revolutionary approach to healing trauma

After many years of training and experience, I have developed a unique treatment approach using a combination of psychotherapy, NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM), Somatic Experiencing, Somatic Experiencing touch, and grief work, together with spiritual and intuitive resources.

This blended approach supports nervous system regulation, healing, and reconnection to self.  Through this process, your body is better able to organize, "digest" and settle, which often leads to a felt sense of safety and healing.  When the nervous system senses safety, it relaxes and moves out of survival mode.  During this process, the system will release trapped energy, emotions, and memories.  By creating energetic space, the body can do what it is designed to do, heal. Sessions are dynamic and often bring relief.  


"Connection:  Our deepest desire and our greatest fear"  -by Dr. Laurence Heller

NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) - NARM is a relational model that focuses on Attachment, Relational Trauma, and Developmental Trauma, also known as Complex PTSD. By working with lifelong Attachment patterns, we address psychobiological symptoms and interpersonal difficulties.  In a session, I start by asking the question, "What would you like from our time together?"  This question is a way for you to name what it is you are yearning for, and it helps guide the session.  The work is based on the present; we explore the conscious and unconscious beliefs and strategies that may be getting in the way of what you truly want for yourself.  Through this heartfelt process, you may come to understand that you are not "crazy".    


 "Trauma is a fact of life.  It does not, however, have to be a life sentence."      -by Dr. Peter Levine

Somatic Experiencing for Shock trauma - Somatic Experiencing is different than traditional talk therapy.  In traditional talk therapy, you may describe a traumatic experience in detail, which may over-activate your body and inadvertently retraumatize your nervous system.  In Somatic Experiencing, you may begin to describe a traumatic event; however, very early on, I'll ask you to pause and notice your body.  Oftentimes, clients will notice tension in their legs or pressure in their chest or a trembling in their body.  From there we stop, we move away from the story, and the somatic process begins.  Throughout the process, we are tracking sensations and exploring what the body is trying to communicate.  This process allows the body time to react, express, and reorganize, which often leads to a physiological release and then self-regulation.  We repeat this process throughout the session. Over time, you will develop a better understanding of your body and what your nervous system needs.  Ultimately, you will develop a deeper connection with yourself. 


"Knowing oneself comes from attending with compassionate curiosity to what is happening within." -by Dr. Gabor Mate 


I work with individuals who are healing from anxiety, depression, developmental trauma, childhood abuse, shock trauma, and unresolved grief.  I also work with many physicians and clinicians who are on their own personal healing journey. 

I have offices in Stamford and Southbury CT.  Please call 203-966-5509 for more information or to schedule an appointment.


Valerie Candela 


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